I’m only halfway through reading ‘How to Win Friends & Influence People’ and I would already say that I am friendlier and more influential. Okay, maybe it doesn’t happen that quickly, but it really is opening my eyes to simple practices we all do every day that with slight changes can really make a difference in everyday interactions.
Dale Carnegie wrote many books in his lifetime. One that has always stuck out to me is ‘How to Win Friends & Influence People’. Over the years I’ve seen this book around in libraries and second-hand shops and have always been intrigued by it. I mean, it has been around for over 75 years and has sold over 30 million copies, there has to be something good going on in there, right?
There is! Dale pulls from his own experiences and from stories he’s heard from friends and people he looks up to, to write this book. He comments on ways to make people like you and supports these with some interesting stories. From what I’ve read so far, there are 6 key ways to make people like you:
- Become genuinely interested in other people
- Greet people with their names (they love hearing it)
- Be a good listener (encourage others to talk about themselves)
- Talk about other people’s interests
- Make the other person feel important – and be sincere
For me, these 6 things are pretty much basic common knowledge. But I feel as though many of us neglect some of these things, or just forget to practice them. The book has been a great reminder to be kind and sincerely care about people (as we should anyway).
Dale’s many works are actually being used in classes all over the world. There are courses you can take to really dive deep into his mind and learn about similar things like making a good first impression, or how to criticize people properly.
As I continue to read, I’m looking forward to putting into practice what I’ve already been learning about. I’m excited to read more into what has been deemed ‘The only book you need to lead you to success’. Here’s hoping that these practices will win me some more friends!